Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Perfection is not attainable and the sooner you realize that the better you’ll feel.
You will fail. Learn from it and move on.
It takes time to get to where you want and that’s okay.Enjoy the process.
You may end up in a different place or career than youenvisioned and that’s okay too.
Stop comparing yourself to others. It only leads to youtearing yourself or the other person down.
God has this. Seriously, God is bigger than any worry or anxiety you have.
Spend time with your family and friends. Tell them how much they mean to you every chance you get.
Let it go. That time you said the wrong thing or had an awkward interaction doesn’t matter. Chances are the other person doesn’t remember it.
Ask for help. You don’t need to do everything on your own.Be there for others and when you need help ask for it.
Enjoy the now. It’s great to have an event or something tolook forward to, but don’t let that stop you from being present.
Don’t rush. You’re not behind and life isn’t a race. It’snot about who gets their dream job first, who gets married first, or who haskids first. It’s about enjoying where you’re at and recognizing everyone is on hisor her own path.
You don’t know everything. Most of us are limited to our own experiences. Talk to other people and learn from their experiences. Read. Travel. Learn.
Overall, be kind to others and yourself. Apologize when you need to. Have the courage to try something new. Learn when to say no to commitments. Invest in yourself. Hold on tight to those closest to you. There will be hard times- don’t let them make you colder. Find out what make you happy.
Write what you know.
But, don’t let that stop you from asking questions and writing about what you
Read a lot. You
become a better writer when you read what other people write and learn from
Write like you speak.
It’s easy to put on a tone when writing and use words you wouldn’t normally
use. While there is a time for that, it’s more refreshing and genuine to write
like you speak.
sentences. A meaningful short sentence is better than a long sentence with
Find the time. For a long time I didn’t write. I was busy, I was tired, or I wasn’t inspired. Although writing can be hard, sitting down to write can be harder.
“All I ask is that you do as well as you can, and remember that, while to write adverbs is human, to write he said or she said is divine.”Stephen King
“Grief is such a specific thing for everyone and it’s a lifelong journey. It’s always there. You deal with it and you go through it and all of the sudden years later it’s like ‘oh no buddy, I’ve been here the whole time.’”Jason Ritter
My dad died unexpectedly a day after his 60th birthday. I didn’t have the words for a long time and I still struggle to find them sometimes but I’ve learned that my grief ebbs and flows.
It’s now been a little more than two years since he died and my grief has taken a different form. I no longer feel a constant sadness of the things I wish I could have said. When my dad died I thought of the last time I talked to him, the last time I saw him, and the things I wish I could have said to him. At the advice of a pastor I wrote it down in a letter – all of it. How much I love my dad, how much I missed him, how proud I was to have him as a father, and how thankful I am for all the things he’s taught me.
My dad was a constant sounding board. Anytime I was anxious about something or needed advice I would talk to him. He showed me what hard work looks like. He encouraged me to write because he knew I enjoyed it and he cheered me on at every stage in my life.
I truly believe he knows all of these things and is with me still today. But my grief is still there. I say my grief because I think that everyone reacts differently to loss. There’s no right way to act or feel and some days are harder than others.
Jason Ritter talked about grief recently on Dax Shepard’s podcast Armchair Expert and it really resonated with me. He said: grief is such a specific thing for everyone and it’s a lifelong journey. It’s always there.You deal with it and you go through it and all of the sudden years later it’s like ‘oh no buddy, I’ve been here the whole time.’” He went on to Tweet about grief: “So cool how grief is just like ‘ok, that’s enough, I’ll leave you alone, I understand that sobbing forever isn’t a realistic life plan’ and then years later you see or read something and it’s like ‘PSYCH I never left, have fun bursting into tears for the rest of the day, hahaha.’”
This. This is what grief is like. There’s no preparing for it but having people in your life who are kind and understanding helps a lot.
Not a lot of people can put grief into words because it’s ever changing, but for now, these are the words I have.
Now that it’s almost March I started thinking about my New Years resolutions. This year I decided to set intentions instead of specific goals. My list includes:
- travel more
- Be kind to myself and others
- Read more
- Write more
- Fear less
- Love fiercely
- Grow in faith
- Enjoy every moment and stop waiting for weekends and big events to have fun.
- Work on finding a balance between work and life
So how have I been doing? I’m happy to say that I’m working on all of these.
- I traveled to California last month and have a few trips planned this year.
- In my previous post I pointed out the importance of self love and extending the same kindness and grace to others.
- So far I’ve read 7 books this year and I’m reading two right now. I’m also getting ready to start a book club with a friend.
- This blog is proof that I’m working on writing 🙂
- For me the next three are all connected.
- I am a worrier and I’ve been working on that this year by choosing to worry less and spend more time growing in faith and prayer.
- Part of that is loving people and myself more.
- I am blessed to have a husband and family that love doing adventurous and fun things. I went to a Cher concert with my mom recently, I just took a trip to Chicago with my husband and we’re planning a family vacation. But instead of spending all of my time looking forward to these events I’m working on enjoying every single moment- even Saturday errands, grocery shopping, and lazy afternoons of watching Netflix. More time is spent in the small monotonous moments than in the big moments and that’s beautiful too.
- I’m still working on finding the balance. I used to think success was defined by long hours and burn out and that’s just not the case. It’s important to have both.
All of these are tied back to being kind to others and myself, spending time with my loved ones, and finding time for the things I love to do. It continues to be a work in progress but I’m enjoying the work.
What about you? Did you make any new year’s resolutions? Did you keep them? And if you did, what helped you succeed?
No matter how much time has passed, I always come back to the keyboard or notebook. There is something about writing that centers me. I don’t always have the words, but when I do I find myself back here.
I first stared blogging eight years ago. After a name change, several different themes, and blog posts I took a break from blogging and deleted my site. As a reporter, I wrote so much during the day that it made it hard to make time to write for fun.
But, I couldn’t stay away for long. I am back and look forward to sharing more stories with you.
I hope you enjoy them!
…writing is about getting up, getting well, and getting over. Getting happy, okay? Getting happy. — Stephen King